I'm not planning on kissing frogs

I went to my cousin's wedding this last weekend. It was nice.

Whenever I go to a wedding, I think, "Dude, when do I get to get married?"

I call God "Dude" a lot.

I think my wedding is going to be the next family wedding -- at least among the cousins on my mom's side. I'm typing that one with a lot of faith, obviously, considering that I don't have a boyfriend and boyfriends are few and far between around these parts.

I got to thinking about this whole thing a few minutes ago, and I recalled a conversation someone was having either with me or in my presence. This "someone" said that it's crazy to marry the first person you're in a relationship with, because, as she said, you need to "see what's out there" before you decide which one you want to buy. Kind of like shopping for cars.

That's a nice thought.

But I think it's crap.

See, there are two F-words that apply to the situation. No, not that one. One is faith and the other is fear. If I'm looking at it with fear in my heart, of course, I'm going to say "Better date around and see what my options are. I don't want to pick the wrong guy."

If I operate in faith, I would take whatever situation came to me and go with it. In the area of dating and marriage, if I was in a relationship and I felt strongly that it was God and I was supposed to marry the man, if I operated in faith, I would marry the man, even if he was the only person I had ever been in a relationship with. Faith is the opposite of fear. You do strange things when you have faith. When you have faith, you might say something like, "This goes against all logic, but I'm going with it anyway, because I believe in something bigger." The "something bigger" part is the part that makes it work out.

I was thinking about this faith versus fear thing because I am pretty confident (speaking in faith again) that I'm not going to have a whole string of men that I've dated first. My guy is going to be the only guy for me.

I'm not kissing any frogs. I think God has something better for me to kiss if I'm faithful to Him and if, rather than seeking first the kingdom of marriage, I seek first the kingdom of God. Matthew 6:33 says "Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and ALL these things shall be added unto you." When we're faithful to Him, He is faithful to us. He does not let our faithfulness go unrewarded.

Love,
~MJ